Navigating LGBTQ Friendships and Relationships: Resources and Tips for NYC

I recently came out as transgender. If I want to meet other LGBT friends, where can I go?

The traditional venues like bars in New York City (NYC) can be challenging, with concerns about rejection and fear of being a 'chaser' when reaching out. It can feel like a catch-22.

Why Alone in the City?

Perhaps you are in NYC and feeling isolated, not sure where to find like-minded individuals. With some effort and resources, it is possible to connect with other LGBTQ individuals in a variety of ways.

Homework and Self-Discovery

Some might argue that you have been on QA sites for months trying to find connections but have yet to ask a meaningful question. Others may suggest that you are not tech-savvy or struggling with social skills, relying on others to solve your problems.

Queer-Friendly Spaces and Apps

Many larger cities, including NYC, have queer-friendly spaces, nightclubs, and activities where transgender individuals and allies gather. These venues can be a fantastic opportunity to meet individuals who share similar interests and backgrounds.

Transgender Dating Sites and Apps

OkFun App - A dating app tailored for the LGBTQ community. ButterFly - A dating app that focuses on building meaningful connections through shared interests and experiences. Taimi - An app designed for LGBTQ individuals to connect and find love or friendship. MyTranssexualDate - A dating site that caters specifically to the transgender community.

Additionally, you can find transgender individuals in social groups on platforms like Facebook, Reddit, and even Quora. These online communities can provide a platform for interaction and relationship building.

Stealth and Queer Spaces

Not all transgender individuals are 'stealth' and openly identify as such. Some are found among cisgender heterosexual (cishet) people and do not always seek out only other trans individuals. However, many trans people, myself included, find comfort in queer spaces. These spaces offer a sense of community and support, which can be invaluable.

Connecting in the Polykink Community

Many transgender individuals, especially those interested in kink or polyamory, often find connections through the BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism) scene. Participating in queer- and trans-friendly events and clubs can help you build meaningful connections and potentially find a partner.

LiveJournal Connections

Before dating apps and social media, some individuals, including me, met transgender partners through online platforms like LiveJournal. While it may be less common today, these platforms still offer a way to connect with others who share your interests and experiences.

Conclusion

Meeting other LGBTQ individuals, particularly transgender individuals, in NYC or elsewhere can be challenging but not impossible. By exploring queer-friendly spaces, using dating apps and online communities, and participating in activities that align with your interests, you can build meaningful connections and relationships.